The Science: "Just tell me what to do!"

…Latisha exclaims as her baby cries loudly.

T – Talk to your baby. Lean over and use a persistent, sing-songy voice close to her ear. Give your baby a few seconds to notice and respond to your voice.

O – Observe your baby’s efforts to contribute to his own calming. (See DVD clips) Many parents are surprised to learn that babies have instinctual behaviors that help them calm down. She might bring her hand to her mouth and with your help start sucking her finger or thumb. He may make sucking movements and start to quiet down. Another baby may look like she’s taking up sword fighting (the fencing reflex): her head turns to the side, one arm and one leg extend while the other arm and leg flex (SEE DVD clip). This maneuver helps some babies start to settle down. And finally, some babies use behavioral SOSs (See HUG Newsletter) to turn off the excessive stimulation around them. She may stare into space or appear drowsy then begin to calm down. (WATCH this clip to understand what she is doing.)

DO – If the baby is still crying, your help is needed.

Hold her arms against her chest and continue that quiet, persistent talking. Swaddle the baby or encourage the baby to suck your finger, the breast, or a pacifier (only after breastfeeding is well established). Taking these actions one step at a time, parents discover what is most comforting to their baby.